Your Brain Has Two Voices. Which One Is Raising Your Daughter?

Every child has two voices in their head.

We call them Brain A (teaches Amazing stuff) and Brain B (teaches Bad stuff) in our home.

• Brain A says: stretch, breathe, draw, solve, pause.
• Brain B says: quit, scroll, snack, zone out, give in.

Brain A thinks long-term. Brain B wants quick relief. Both are real. Both are normal.
But only one helps kids grow—and the key is helping them notice which one they’re listening to.

This isn’t about punishment. It’s about awareness.

 

1. What “Addiction” Looks Like in Children

We often associate addiction with dangerous substances—but in kids, it starts small:

• The reflex to grab a screen every time they’re bored
• Reaching for a snack when they’re sad
• Always needing sound, movement, or entertainment to feel okay

This doesn’t mean they’re “bad.” It means their brain is doing what brains do—trying to feel better quickly. The issue? Not everything that feels good is good for them.

 

2. Explain “Good” vs. “Mindless” Habits Without Guilt 

There are healthy obsessions:

• Building with blocks for hours
• Drawing the same character every day
• Running outside to play a favorite sport

These fuel growth. They lead to flow, creativity, and resilience.
Mindless habits, on the other hand, usually leave kids feeling worse. The energy is different. The emotional aftertaste is real.

The difference is:
Is your child escaping a feeling, or expressing one?

 

3. The Brain A / Brain B Story: A Tool That Sticks 

This is where it gets practical.

Tell your child:

"Everyone has Brain A and Brain B. Brain A wants what’s good for you. Brain B wants what’s easy or fast—even if it hurts you later."

Let them name it. Spot it. Laugh at it.
Make it playful:

“Oh, sounds like Brain B wants to quit the puzzle because it got hard. What does Brain A say?”

Over time, you’re not controlling them. You’re giving them a mirror—one they can carry into adolescence and beyond.

 

4. What Parents Can Say to Help

Instead of:

“Why are you always on your screen?”

Try:

“Do you think Brain A or Brain B made that choice?”
“How do you feel after that? Energized or drained?”
“What would Brain A suggest right now?”

This isn’t about shame. It’s about building the pause between feeling and action.

 

5. Why Perfection Is Never the Goal

Your child will choose Brain B sometimes. You will too.
That’s not failure—that’s human.

What matters is teaching them:

• How to notice the voice
• How to question it
• How to rechoose when needed

This is emotional awareness. This is impulse control. This is how we raise thinkers, not just followers.

 

You don’t have to ban every distraction or fix every moment.
You just have to teach your child to recognize which voice in their brain is talking—and remind them that the choice is always theirs.

That’s the real self-control: not perfection, but awareness.

  

Ask them to create Brain A vs. Brain B Chart — a tool to help your child spot the difference between reaction and reflection.